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5 Ways Young Adults' Emotions Can Suck the Life Out of You




Raising young adults comes with a lot of uncertainty, especially if you cannot decipher what mood they will project next. Young adults within the age of 18 and above, have fluctuating moods as they grow up, and they are fully aware of their emotions. They are always adventurous and want to see the world.


Note that most young adults if not properly taught about their emotions during the teenage stage do not know how to name what they are feeling. Sometimes they do not know how to control their emotions. The emotions young adults exhibit have a mix of rationality and complexity. Most young adults are confused and are in their experiment stage facing reality with little help from guardians.


As a young adult growing up, I can remember early enough some of the emotions I felt that I could not express. I can remember a time when I was in university, I was 19 years old, and I had a quarrel with my roommate. I could not call my mum to tell her as I will always do during my teenage days, I just sat with my emotions all bottled up, and didn’t reconcile with my roommate even though I was at fault.


She was more mature than I was. So she came up to me and apologized for how she acted. I didn’t apologize, I just nodded. In my heart, I felt I had won, and she was at fault. Just reliving the incident now, made me realize I had overreacted and I should have apologized.


As young adults, grow up they begin to understand their emotions more, name them and express them accordingly. They become mature and take up responsibilities, as they enter a new chapter in their life.


Some young adults still live with their parents while some would leave their parent or guardian's house and start fending for themselves. This is to say there are different responsibility levels for different young adults.


A young adult of 19 years can have an intense conversation with his peers and handle it without a fight while a young adult of 26-year-old stays might shout and cause a scene during such a tough conversation. This example shows clearly the different levels of maturity in young adults and how different young adult handle their emotional triggers.


Reasons Why Young Adults Need to Control Their Emotions

Having emotional feelings as a young adult is part of life. It is through emotions one can present how they feel inside of them. It is also worth noting that emotions are not factual if they are not constant, and studies have shown that, most emotions exhibited, are not so true.


So, young adults should understand that emotions are valid but, they are not the foundations for making important decisions in life. Young adults need to accept that their feeling can be all over the place but it needs to be controlled.


Here are five reasons why young adults need to control their emotions:

  • It will help in making informed decisions: most important and good decisions were not made on emotions. Most couple counselors will tell their couple clients not to marry based on the emotions they are feeling but with a clearer head. A controlled emotion will give space for more thinking to make informed decisions.

  • Helps in understanding mental triggers: mental triggers like fear, anxiousness, guilt, etc. can destabilize your mental well-being, and they work with emotions in conjunction with the mind. Controlling your emotions will help you notice these mental triggers as they surface and how to handle them.

  • Gives leverage for more control over self: everyone wants to have control over self at some point in life. Most CEOs will say to learn to control your emotions and think with your head if you want to be in this game. Controlled emotions equate to control over the self.

  • Help in having a good response: with adequate and consistent control of emotions during young adulthood, you can be very articulated in responding to setbacks. This means that you have built resilience, and you have the answers to any question even though it is not immediate.

  • Helps with adulthood: having control as a young adult equips one with the ability to become a responsible adult. You will be able to handle tough challenges that present themselves during adulthood. You will not look like an adult who has not addressed its traumas.

Types Of Emotions Faced by Young Adults

Emotions are the foundations of mood. The mood is the outward appearance of emotions. In that regards their different emotions that spring up during the journey of young adulthood. Remember, a young adult is finishing the teenage journey and advancing toward adulthood, so there will be a mixture of some teenage and adult emotions.


Here is a list of very common emotions displayed by young adults as they advance into adulthood;

- Positive/happy emotions, contentment, happiness, excitement, curiosity, patience, affection, falling in love, trust, humbleness, relaxation, pity, politeness, calmness etc.

- Negative/Sad emotionsUnhappiness, shame, guilt, sadness, fear, helplessness, worry, frustration, anger, discontentment, boredom, pride etc.


These are some of the common emotions, and they are classified under positive and negative emotions for proper identification. One of the most common emotions felt by young adults is frustration. They are trying to understand what adulthood is all about at the same time leaving the teenage stage.


Ways To Manage and Control Your Emotions as A Young Adult.


Even if the emotions emitting from the journey of young adulthood can suck out life, there are ways to manage and control the situation, especially if it is mostly negative emotions you feel.


These ways help with healthy coping mechanisms that will help you cope with the journey. Here are good ways to manage your emotions:

  • Accept your emotions: acceptance of your emotion is a gateway to having control over them. Acceptance means recognizing it is there instead of pushing it away.

  • Visit a mental health counselor: it is proper to seek professional help if you cannot handle the situation and it is beginning to affect your daily activities.

  • Talk to yourself: Young adulthood means more responsibility for yourself and less from parents. So, you have to talk to yourself and give yourself a pep talk, knowing that you are in control of the situation.

  • Notice your triggers: negative emotions come with triggers, and you have to be aware of them. For example, a young adult might be angry because they got stuck in traffic. Being stuck in traffic is not something you can outdo, so when you notice your anger coming up, try and look for ways to enjoy the traffic situation, you can listen to the radio, or listen to some relaxing music while stuck in traffic, anything except being angry.

  • Be positive always: a positive mindset always works. Positivity helps young adults to find possible solutions to their issues without fear.

Most young adults go with the flow of their emotions and later turn out to be children in adult bodies. The stage of young adulthood is to drop childish behavior that could hinder development into a full-grown adult.


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